Beautiful scars!

Wear your scars as if they were your medals they say

They’re evidence for trying

Proof for not falling behind

For showing up and never giving up

For being brave and taking risks

For realising nothing in life is guaranteed

For not jumping into conclusions

For not betraying yourself

For daring and never listening to others

For listening to your heart and following your dreams

For facing your fears

Be proud! they show that you have lived!

 

Today’s quote- “The wound is the place where the light enters you”- Rumi

Always with love- Bersi xoxo

Magnesium flakes for muscle relaxation and healthy bones!

Magnesium flakes are a highly concentrated form of mineral salt also known as nature’s most potent relaxant. The flakes are excellent to deliver magnesium through the skin with essential minerals the body needs. Magnesium is vital for healthy bones and teeth and the flakes help promote the overall well-being, aid skin health and relaxing muscles. It’s deficiency contributes to insomnia, tiredness, PMS, period pain, depression, sugar cravings, muscle cramps and a lot more.

 

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Here’s how this precious mineral helped my health better:

1: Relief for aching muscles and joints

The flakes help my muscles and joints relax. I mean who wouldn’t want this. I tell you, this is the best thing that I’ve ever discovered.  But then again anything that comes across my path is a complete bliss! #HappyDays

I use the flakes after a workout or if I’m feeling a bit stiff, achy or if my knees are hurting; and trust me it really helps. When having a bath, I normally mix it with Epsom salt and it works wonders; but if I’m feeling lazy then I just have a foot soak with it. #RIPmusclePain.

You don’t have to mix it with epsom salt though. It’s more potent than epsom salt, so you can just use it on it’s own; but I’m a bit extra. You should know this by now… 😉

2: Bone health

Alright, so the less magnesium we have the weaker our bone density is. It’s not only Calcium that’s needed for bone strength- in fact magnesium helps the body absorb calcium. So, don’t be fooled. You can be drinking gallons of milk or even consuming dairy products but if you don’t have enough magnesium in your system it won’t get absorbed into your body. When I walk, my bones around my ankle area used to make a clicking sound. I knowww! Embarrassing right? but my magnesium intake really helped and it’s not as bad as it was before. #victory

3: Sleeping better

Well, you won’t believe this but magnesium can also help you relax and sleep better, too. Lately, I haven’t been sleeping well, too much on the mind, like everybody else I guess. But, every time I feel a bit restless, I use this magnificent salt and guess what? I sleep like an angel. I would say baby, but babies don’t sleep. I don’t even know why this expression is used. No turning or tossing!!! #noMoreSleeplessNights

 

Different ways of using the flakes 

1: You can have a bath with it

Dissolve 1/4 cup of Miracle Bath Flakes in warm bath water, keeping the temperature just above our body temperature. Soak for 20 – 40 minutes. Make sure the water is not too hot as you won’t get the benefit. You can do this twice a week or more if you have time.

P.S. Drink plenty of pure water when taking magnesium baths. You need to keep your body hydrated.

2: You can soak your feet in it

I sometimes prefer to take a foot-bath instead of having a bath. I just think it’s easier, especially if I’m in the mood to paint my nails, drink green tea, read or even watch my favourite TV show which is anything funny, educational or inspirational #Tedtalks

3: Of course, you can make Magnesium oil out of it

You didn’t know there was such a thing did ya? well, now you do! this is basically the laziest and the most convenient way of taking magnesium and this is how I make it:

  • Take how ever much you think you need, 1-2 teaspoons is enough if you’ve never done this before; and you can increase the amount gradually.

 

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  • Then add 1 teaspoon of warm water to it. It will dissolve it quick enough for you to apply it to the problem areas.  I usually apply it on my joints; my knees, ankles, wrists…etc and massage it well.  It will feel and look glossy but it’s not oily at all so you can leave it on and you are free to go about your business. I usually apply it before bed as it helps me relax and sleep better.  If you’re lazy and not bothered about saving  your hard earned money, you can buy a magnesium oil but I just think it’s pricey.

 

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Once it’s dissolved!

 

 

Where to get it:

You can get it from any health stores or even on line. It’s better to get it in bulk as it’s expensive. I get mine from Amazon or any other online health stores- which ever is cheaper really.

Storage:

You need to store it in a dry place and make sue it’s not exposed to heat. The longer you leave it open and exposed to heat it will melt. So protect it well. After all it is your investment.

Caution:

If it’s your first time using the magnesium oil, you might feel a little bit itchy after application which is why you need to start in small quantity. But it disappears soon so nothing to worry about here.

Today’s quote:

Keep Calm! Magnesium got your bones and muscles! 

 

Always with love- Bersi 🙂

That head wrap look!

I just can’t get enough of the head wraps. There’s something about them that oozes elegance- to me, they just feel home 🙂  don’t you think so? You can buy them from any African or Indian shops. It’s just the little things in life…

Express yourself #Freedom!

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This was taken in Ireland. The Shirt is from H & M; and the head wrap is from an Indian scarves shop.

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The vest and the blazer are also from H &M; and the boots are from Aldo; one of my favourite shoe shops in London. The scarf is from a local market. Ahh you gotta love markets! I personally think the the scarf makes this outfit complete. #Happy days

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This was taken in Southern France, Ramatuelle, One of my favourite places of all times. You can also wear your head wrap/scarf when travelling. It goes perfectly well with jeans and a top.

 

 

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This was taken in Spain, Las Palmas; another favourite place of mine! Don’t you love the green 🙂 aoww and the hair too! will share some photos of this wonderful place soon 🙂

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This was in Holland, the tulip garden…I love love this place. It was heavenly- didn’t know a place like this existed on earth 🙂 if you go to Holland, check this place out!

 

Quote of the day:

True confidence is when you don’t compare yourself with anyone, you just arrive! #Queen things

 

Freedom!

Freedom has a high price they say

As high as that of slavery

But then, do we ask what is freedom really?

Free from our commitments or responsibilities

Free from  the burdens or just having endless choices

Free from the laws of nature or the tradition that existed for centuries

Free to make our own rules, without boundaries

Free from feeling guilty of our blessings

Free to live our lives without judgments

Free to love life and live it fully

Free to follow our hearts and live life shamelessly

Free is what we are, naturally!

Women of our generation!

The world we live in today is funny, emotional, corrupt, heartless, demanding, damaging, bloodsucking…etc The list is endless; and we have to fight for what we believe in otherwise we’ll get killed. We have to really stand up and protect ourselves and fight for dear life. Especially if you’re not an ass kisser like me. It doesn’t get easier. Today, we have two worlds and two generations fighting for what they believe in and never agreeing on one thing and we’re stuck in the middle. Because though we are one, we come from different times and generations. And one thinks their way is better than the other.

Today we have a lot of people leaving their families behind and starting their journey on their own to see where life might take them, but this comes with a big sacrifice. There’s a lot of people like me who left their families back home and moved to a different continent with a different culture and tradition trying to follow their bliss and have a better life. My journey has been nothing but challenging and I’m grateful for the hardships I went through cos’ it really made me appreciate how far I’ve come, how I see life  and where I’m headed. All the people I met and the troubles I’ve overcome made me wiser, kinder, better and stronger. Amen to that!

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When people move in groups, I stayed in my lane,  I didn’t mind being a loner because I knew where I was headed. It never did bother me. I did my own shit, dressed like I wanted, never really followed a crowd. I was always in a different space and place. I stayed true to myself, been hurt too many times and vowed to never hurt anyone I encounter on my journey. I moved on purpose. Everything I did, I made sure I did out of love and care.. Of course, I made mistakes but they only made me sharper and focused. I always found ways to feed my soul, did what I had to do to survive, I was there for the people who needed me, not because I had to, but because I wanted to. Just for love. Nothing else. But in the process of it all I lost myself. I was a servant and I still am. Because I believe that’s why I’m here. To serve humanity. But I completely lost myself because I thought I didn’t matter and since I was always the strong one, I ignored myself, because I thought I could do it all. Which is absolutely a massive mistake. But on the good side, I thought myself to be humble, kept my feet on the ground and stayed grounded. So many times I fell and got back up again. As the new generation and time got me thinking; I always tell myself, I got to do better, I have to be better than I was yesterday, I need to grow and move elegantly through life.

 

Meanwhile;

my grandmother and my mother’s generation is different to mine. They lived in a time where arranged marriage is acceptable and the highest achievement in life is to get married and have kids.  And all they could think of is for me get married and have kids. It feels like all my achievements in life, my ambitions and dreams, the way I am, how far I’ve come, my struggles and all that I am is never enough and is so not appreciated. I find myself growing apart from my family because I know I’m a disappointment to them. Regardless of how hard I tried to make them see my point of view, I will never succeed and they will never understand. And I will never understand their way of life either. Two generations who come from one land fighting for what they believe in but no one is winning.

We live in different times and ages. If a woman refuses to live the life that’s planned for her, she gets disowned by her parents because she said no to live the life they want for her. Their best line is” we know what’s best for you and we want you to be happy”. Wait, hold up! Did I say I’m sad? And you may have known me when I was little but 15 years later, I’m a different person. They need to understand their version of what’s best for us in their eyes might not actually be the best thing for us. They need to allow people to move on at their own pace, let them live life the way they want to and just let them be. And if we don’t obey we get disowned? What ignorance. It really breaks my heart to see that women of our time and age are not appreciated for who they are without a husband and kids. Life is more than that. Open your eyes.

 

Maybe this should sum up what women of our age are like:

we are the women of our time. We struggle, we fight, we overcome. We might need to work twice as hard to get where we want to get to, but even then we still never give up. We shouldn’t! We simply can’t! We’re stronger that we’ll ever be. We are the women of our time and generation! And we’ll always rise!

DEAL WITH IT!

That Homemade mouthwash for healthy gums!

Homemade mouthwash!

So, about 3 weeks ago, my tooth started aching badly and it was weird as my general mouth health is on point. Especially after I paid my dentist a visit at the beginning of the year and after she told me everything was in a good shape. It could only be related to the accident I had about 5 years ago when my jaw broke and it literally split in half and two of my teeth nearly fell out- it was gruesome- I thought I was going to be deformed for life. Thank God, I didn’t. *all smiles*

 

As usual I kept rinsing my mouth with warm water & Himalayan salt after I brush my teeth and hoped for the best, but the pain didn’t go away and suddenly I had the urge to make my own mouth wash. I stopped using mouth wash for a while now as it started eating up my gums, so I’ve had to rely on the Himalayan salt rinse for a while. The new mouthwash is amazing and after a day the pain was gone and now I’m in love with my mouthwash. It gives you a pleasant burning sensation just like the real mouthwash does, but only better and spicier. I’ve also noticed my teeth getting whiter and cleaner and my gums healthier. I haven’t had a single pain since I started using my miracle mouth wash. #happydays

 

You’ll need:

1 teaspoon of fine salt ( preferably Himalayan salt)

1 teaspoons of black pepper powder

1 teaspoons of cinnamon powder

Here’s what I made….

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It really depends on how spicy you want it, so it’s up to you if want to increase the amounts. Try it and find your own perfect mix. The spicier the better! I sometimes put more black pepper when I want it stronger. You can keep adding warm water to your mix and also add more black pepper and cinnamon if you like it strong. The stronger the better!!

 

Directions:

 

Mix all the ingredients together with warm water and rinse your mouth after you brush your teeth. You can also use it anytime you want- even in the middle of the day. There are no rules here.

 

Benefits

 

The antibacterial property of black pepper helps to fight against infections and as a result  it reduces pain and inflammation in your gums.

Cinnamon is effective against gum infection mainly because of its antifungal and antimicrobial properties. It’s been used for years to heal gum infections, which I think is why there’s a cinnamon gum- my childhood favourite chewing gum. The warm water along with the salt helps to pull “fluid” out of the gum tissue, therefore reducing swelling, alleviating pain, and killing harmful bacteria.

 

Quote of the day:

“Innovation basically involves making obsolete that which you did before- Jay Abraham

 

 

 

Expectation!

A sensitive topic that gets people into arguments, hate, resentment and disappointment and the cliché saying of all time “expect nothing to avoid being disappointed”!  ohh really? I’d say expect away and get disappointed anyway. It’s part of life and part of who we are. It’s not something you simply can switch of.

Bruce Lee has once said “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectation and you’re not in this world to live up to mine” and this is exactly how I want to live my life. And I’m safe to say I’m doing well on this. Giving, just because I feel like it and not expecting anything in return. It’s not easy but, it’s the journey that I’m on. I’m working to better myself each and everyday and I’ve also read few books on self-development; and I will keep reading them. But the truth is, we’re humans and whether we do things expecting something in return or we don’t, we’re bound to feel disappointed when the love or the favour doesn’t get returned. Don’t blame me- blame your heart and the way we’re made. And if they say why why?- tell them that is human nature- just like MJ said!

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Though, I’m trying to live my life according to Mr Lee’s quote above, it’s been challenging for me when it comes to letting people be. I don’t know if it’s a problem but I always see the good in people and it takes me a looooong time before I can say enough is enough and move on. I choose to see the good in people and always expect them to do better and be better. But I always get disappointed when they don’t live up to the expectation and the better image I have for them. See! I’m still expecting but I honestly don’t want to. Because, I figured everyone should be free and we cannot expect anyone to see life the way we do and expect them to think like we do. I’ve learned that we cannot expect them to be who we want them to be. Just as much as we don’t want them expecting us who to be.

We’re always going to end up resenting the people who make us do the things we hate doing and tell us to live our lives their way. And they’re always going to resent us for not fulfilling their wish. So if this is the case, why can’t we live FREELY ever after?!

The gorgeous Lisa Nicholas said, “ if you expect me to be the next Oprah, I will disappoint you massively, so let me just be Lisa Nicholas”

In a world full of expectations, just be!

In a world full of expectations, just be. You’re going to disappoint friends, parents, teachers…etc and you will never be perfect, and they’re also going to disappoint you. The sooner you get this the better. It’s about time we find peace with it but remember as long as you don’t disappoint you, honey! You’re good.

If you’re kind, be kind- don’t change because that one person is not being kind to you. If you’re crazy, be crazy! Don’t change because they want someone who’s boring. You are and should be loved the way you are.

I hope in the process of it all, you do not let anyone else’s expectations direct the course of your life.

Peace and Harmony

Bersi x