What true belonging means to me.

Where do you belong?

Well darlings, this is a tough one. I have seen people struggle with it as much as I have struggled. We all want to feel we belong somewhere. Whether it is our families, our villages, our countries, our jobs, our friends, our communities…etc. But isn’t it true that belonging is fitting in? I questioned myself several times.  What happens if we don’t fit in anywhere anymore. I mean, we belong somewhere because we share something right. Whether it’s values, standards, traditions and cultures. I mean, there has to be something we have in common right. But if you start having different values, different ways of thinking, different everything than our community, would you still say, I belong with them? Would you still feel comfortable saying that’s my home? Would you still feel understood, valued and accepted?

I mean we can disagree on somethings but if the core values change, what then? This kept coming back to me.

I left home in my mid-teenage years and have had to start life over and over again. Have had to learn different languages, cultures and traditions; and I’m grateful for it. I brought my values I grew up with, with me but over the years they started changing. I mean we have to evolve in order to grow right? We can’t just be in one spot and expect to grow too. We got to keep learning and changing. But the reality of it is, we try to make our values fit with others and when they don’t work we back off and ask why it didn’t.

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we try to make anyone and everything familiar to our values home. You try to grab it and never let go of it. We be the servant because it gives us that sense of belonging. I am guilty of this because I did it over and over again. I try to replace that feeling of belonging with people who didn’t even care about me. Of course, I didn’t see it then. But I kept searching for it everywhere. But I had no luck.

I didn’t know I didn’t have to do things to feel and be accepted and I certainly didn’t have to prove anything to anyone so I can belong.

And I failed to understand that home is not where I left it. It is not with a bunch of people. I finally understood that Home is me. It always has been. Home is where I go. Home is my head and my heart. Home is me. Because I kept coming back to myself. I kept coming back to my heart. And I reached a conclusion that no matter where I go there is my home. You cannot escape yourself. You’ll always be carrying you around, so you better make that a comfortable home. Respect your home, clean your home, love your home. And you will see a much loved, happy, cared for and respected home will attract curiosity and will attract homes just like it.

…And when you find someone who’s just what you were looking for; well, they can be your second home 🙂

Hope these words stay with you 🙂

With love- Bersi x

 

 

 

 

 

That head wrap look!

I just can’t get enough of the head wraps. There’s something about them that oozes elegance- to me, they just feel home 🙂  don’t you think so? You can buy them from any African or Indian shops. It’s just the little things in life…

Express yourself #Freedom!

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This was taken in Ireland. The Shirt is from H & M; and the head wrap is from an Indian scarves shop.

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The vest and the blazer are also from H &M; and the boots are from Aldo; one of my favourite shoe shops in London. The scarf is from a local market. Ahh you gotta love markets! I personally think the the scarf makes this outfit complete. #Happy days

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This was taken in Southern France, Ramatuelle, One of my favourite places of all times. You can also wear your head wrap/scarf when travelling. It goes perfectly well with jeans and a top.

 

 

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This was taken in Spain, Las Palmas; another favourite place of mine! Don’t you love the green 🙂 aoww and the hair too! will share some photos of this wonderful place soon 🙂

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This was in Holland, the tulip garden…I love love this place. It was heavenly- didn’t know a place like this existed on earth 🙂 if you go to Holland, check this place out!

 

Quote of the day:

True confidence is when you don’t compare yourself with anyone, you just arrive! #Queen things

 

That Bohemian look!

Hey folks, here is another favourite image of mine! apologies for the delay, but better late than never. I wouldn’t mind dressing like this everyday. I feel comfortable and I certainly feel myself. We should not and I repeat SHOULD NOT feel like we have to do what others are doing and feel how others are feeling. We have the right to feel the way we want to feel and dress the way we want to dress. Express yourself! be yourself! and if you’re scared of others’ negative comments- learn to ignore the message; be the master of it.  As usual, stay tuned for more!

In this picture I’m not wearing any foundation at all. The only thing I’m wearing is Mascara, eye liner and a bit of lipgloss. It’s all natural and it shows what I’ve been doing right. wink wink!

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All we want is….

All we want is to feel safe and be loved
To open our hearts and let people see
To fall asleep deeply without a single worry
All we want is to be heard and be seen
To be understood even when it’s hard to explain
To be hugged and feel the connection
To let go and never fight on every occasion

To be free and have a sense of belonging
To feel and touch what we’ve been longing….

-Bersi TK

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