Scared to follow your dreams?

Scared to follow your dreams?

Well, internet friends, I’m not going to sugar- coat it and pretend that I am a big actionista gal. ( someone who takes action lol).

The reason I didn’t pursue my dreams and didn’t follow through with an action to a scale that I wish I had done was because, my dream kept me going. It kept me alive. I had something to hold on to. It gave me hope and it had me saying, “one day” and I figured if I act on it and it fails, I won’t have anything to hold on to and won’t be able to say “one day” anymore.

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I won’t have that smear of hope that was barely holding me together.

And then, I saw this quote from Ghandi which resignated with me. “To believe in something and not to live it, is dishonest”. This really hit home cos’ I know what I believe in and trust me I’m trying to live it and be it. Everyday!  The quote gave me more courage to keep on keeping on and keep my eyes on the goal.

Little did I know though, we can have as many dreams and ideas as we want- not just one.  We don’t have a limited allowance you know. This is not a vodafone data allowance.  So I decided to act on it and was prepared to fail on my face. I really do not want to be on my death bed and regret the choices I made in life or the ones I didn’t. I did not want to play it safe anymore.

And I undesrtood that if it fails, I should focus on altering the steps, the approach and perhaps update my skills to get there but never change the dream. We miss this point. It’s not the dream that fails, it’s the way we go about it.

I just don’t want to carry an empty hole in my heart and walk around pretending to have a fulfilled life. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not sad because I made a choice to be happy.

But I wanted to be fulfilled and be more lightened. Which is why I call my blog, come shine with me, cos I try to keep my corner lit and keep shining and bring my sunshine with me.

I don’t want to sacrifice my life for doing what I don’t love doing. Standing in my own truth is what I stand for.

Because I know there’s so much freedom to be had when we stand on our own truth. When people are busy chasing happiness, I’m chasing freedom, cos’ happiness is just a state and we can choose to be happy without any conditions and you can train yourself to be in that state and own that shit. #wisemove

But being free, we gotta work harder and harder everyday baby!!! It ain’t cheap and it defo ain’t easy.

I’d say, If u want to live an honest life son, go get something to believe in and live by it. #simples

Always with love- Bersi

The way out!

 

It was written before I wrote
It was broken before I broke it
The way out- it was made before I made it
God almighty
Always there- watching me
Paving the way for me
Every turn, every corner
Curving it beautifully
Sending me,  angels who guard me

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I was always protected
Deep down I knew- never doubted it
All I had to do was pay attention- no hesitation
Believe! Listen carefully
It’s a gut feeling
What I was good at ignoring
What do you know about it though? it is a spiritual thing. Spiritual healing!!

Yours. Bersi, with love xoxo

 

 

I’m everything and nothing at all!

I am everything and nothing at all

Sometimes I want to be quiet and sometimes celebrate
I love those who have energy and jump around and I am that,
But at times I just want to meditate and leave it at that.
Sometimes I want to hold hands and take it slow,
But other times I want to jump in the ocean and play with the storm
You know playing with words is what I adore, but then I also like a movie & a popcorn

Sometimes I hold on tight to what I have, but other times I don’t care if all is lost
I love it when you tell me you love me, but other times it’s enough when you hold me
And we all love it when people sympathise with us but tough love we also appreciate.
Sometimes we want to be healthy but then we also celebrate being lazy
And don’t we all love honesty but the kind less brutal & easy

we love to share but we don’t like it when they’re too nosy

I admire flexibility, and I don’t mind changing but without losing my identity

you see- It’s not because I have endless personalities
But because, darling!  I am everything
And without it, I’m also nothing!!!

look around, pay attention and see if you’re experiencing something ….anything?

Love always, yours Bee x0x0

That head wrap look!

I just can’t get enough of the head wraps. There’s something about them that oozes elegance- to me, they just feel home 🙂  don’t you think so? You can buy them from any African or Indian shops. It’s just the little things in life…

Express yourself #Freedom!

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This was taken in Ireland. The Shirt is from H & M; and the head wrap is from an Indian scarves shop.

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The vest and the blazer are also from H &M; and the boots are from Aldo; one of my favourite shoe shops in London. The scarf is from a local market. Ahh you gotta love markets! I personally think the the scarf makes this outfit complete. #Happy days

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This was taken in Southern France, Ramatuelle, One of my favourite places of all times. You can also wear your head wrap/scarf when travelling. It goes perfectly well with jeans and a top.

 

 

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This was taken in Spain, Las Palmas; another favourite place of mine! Don’t you love the green 🙂 aoww and the hair too! will share some photos of this wonderful place soon 🙂

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This was in Holland, the tulip garden…I love love this place. It was heavenly- didn’t know a place like this existed on earth 🙂 if you go to Holland, check this place out!

 

Quote of the day:

True confidence is when you don’t compare yourself with anyone, you just arrive! #Queen things

 

Women of our generation!

The world we live in today is funny, emotional, corrupt, heartless, demanding, damaging, bloodsucking…etc The list is endless; and we have to fight for what we believe in otherwise we’ll get killed. We have to really stand up and protect ourselves and fight for dear life. Especially if you’re not an ass kisser like me. It doesn’t get easier. Today, we have two worlds and two generations fighting for what they believe in and never agreeing on one thing and we’re stuck in the middle. Because though we are one, we come from different times and generations. And one thinks their way is better than the other.

Today we have a lot of people leaving their families behind and starting their journey on their own to see where life might take them, but this comes with a big sacrifice. There’s a lot of people like me who left their families back home and moved to a different continent with a different culture and tradition trying to follow their bliss and have a better life. My journey has been nothing but challenging and I’m grateful for the hardships I went through cos’ it really made me appreciate how far I’ve come, how I see life  and where I’m headed. All the people I met and the troubles I’ve overcome made me wiser, kinder, better and stronger. Amen to that!

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When people move in groups, I stayed in my lane,  I didn’t mind being a loner because I knew where I was headed. It never did bother me. I did my own shit, dressed like I wanted, never really followed a crowd. I was always in a different space and place. I stayed true to myself, been hurt too many times and vowed to never hurt anyone I encounter on my journey. I moved on purpose. Everything I did, I made sure I did out of love and care.. Of course, I made mistakes but they only made me sharper and focused. I always found ways to feed my soul, did what I had to do to survive, I was there for the people who needed me, not because I had to, but because I wanted to. Just for love. Nothing else. But in the process of it all I lost myself. I was a servant and I still am. Because I believe that’s why I’m here. To serve humanity. But I completely lost myself because I thought I didn’t matter and since I was always the strong one, I ignored myself, because I thought I could do it all. Which is absolutely a massive mistake. But on the good side, I thought myself to be humble, kept my feet on the ground and stayed grounded. So many times I fell and got back up again. As the new generation and time got me thinking; I always tell myself, I got to do better, I have to be better than I was yesterday, I need to grow and move elegantly through life.

 

Meanwhile;

my grandmother and my mother’s generation is different to mine. They lived in a time where arranged marriage is acceptable and the highest achievement in life is to get married and have kids.  And all they could think of is for me get married and have kids. It feels like all my achievements in life, my ambitions and dreams, the way I am, how far I’ve come, my struggles and all that I am is never enough and is so not appreciated. I find myself growing apart from my family because I know I’m a disappointment to them. Regardless of how hard I tried to make them see my point of view, I will never succeed and they will never understand. And I will never understand their way of life either. Two generations who come from one land fighting for what they believe in but no one is winning.

We live in different times and ages. If a woman refuses to live the life that’s planned for her, she gets disowned by her parents because she said no to live the life they want for her. Their best line is” we know what’s best for you and we want you to be happy”. Wait, hold up! Did I say I’m sad? And you may have known me when I was little but 15 years later, I’m a different person. They need to understand their version of what’s best for us in their eyes might not actually be the best thing for us. They need to allow people to move on at their own pace, let them live life the way they want to and just let them be. And if we don’t obey we get disowned? What ignorance. It really breaks my heart to see that women of our time and age are not appreciated for who they are without a husband and kids. Life is more than that. Open your eyes.

 

Maybe this should sum up what women of our age are like:

we are the women of our time. We struggle, we fight, we overcome. We might need to work twice as hard to get where we want to get to, but even then we still never give up. We shouldn’t! We simply can’t! We’re stronger that we’ll ever be. We are the women of our time and generation! And we’ll always rise!

DEAL WITH IT!

That Homemade mouthwash for healthy gums!

Homemade mouthwash!

So, about 3 weeks ago, my tooth started aching badly and it was weird as my general mouth health is on point. Especially after I paid my dentist a visit at the beginning of the year and after she told me everything was in a good shape. It could only be related to the accident I had about 5 years ago when my jaw broke and it literally split in half and two of my teeth nearly fell out- it was gruesome- I thought I was going to be deformed for life. Thank God, I didn’t. *all smiles*

 

As usual I kept rinsing my mouth with warm water & Himalayan salt after I brush my teeth and hoped for the best, but the pain didn’t go away and suddenly I had the urge to make my own mouth wash. I stopped using mouth wash for a while now as it started eating up my gums, so I’ve had to rely on the Himalayan salt rinse for a while. The new mouthwash is amazing and after a day the pain was gone and now I’m in love with my mouthwash. It gives you a pleasant burning sensation just like the real mouthwash does, but only better and spicier. I’ve also noticed my teeth getting whiter and cleaner and my gums healthier. I haven’t had a single pain since I started using my miracle mouth wash. #happydays

 

You’ll need:

1 teaspoon of fine salt ( preferably Himalayan salt)

1 teaspoons of black pepper powder

1 teaspoons of cinnamon powder

Here’s what I made….

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It really depends on how spicy you want it, so it’s up to you if want to increase the amounts. Try it and find your own perfect mix. The spicier the better! I sometimes put more black pepper when I want it stronger. You can keep adding warm water to your mix and also add more black pepper and cinnamon if you like it strong. The stronger the better!!

 

Directions:

 

Mix all the ingredients together with warm water and rinse your mouth after you brush your teeth. You can also use it anytime you want- even in the middle of the day. There are no rules here.

 

Benefits

 

The antibacterial property of black pepper helps to fight against infections and as a result  it reduces pain and inflammation in your gums.

Cinnamon is effective against gum infection mainly because of its antifungal and antimicrobial properties. It’s been used for years to heal gum infections, which I think is why there’s a cinnamon gum- my childhood favourite chewing gum. The warm water along with the salt helps to pull “fluid” out of the gum tissue, therefore reducing swelling, alleviating pain, and killing harmful bacteria.

 

Quote of the day:

“Innovation basically involves making obsolete that which you did before- Jay Abraham