That head wrap look!

I just can’t get enough of the head wraps. There’s something about them that oozes elegance- to me, they just feel home 🙂  don’t you think so? You can buy them from any African or Indian shops. It’s just the little things in life…

Express yourself #Freedom!

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This was taken in Ireland. The Shirt is from H & M; and the head wrap is from an Indian scarves shop.

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The vest and the blazer are also from H &M; and the boots are from Aldo; one of my favourite shoe shops in London. The scarf is from a local market. Ahh you gotta love markets! I personally think the the scarf makes this outfit complete. #Happy days

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This was taken in Southern France, Ramatuelle, One of my favourite places of all times. You can also wear your head wrap/scarf when travelling. It goes perfectly well with jeans and a top.

 

 

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This was taken in Spain, Las Palmas; another favourite place of mine! Don’t you love the green 🙂 aoww and the hair too! will share some photos of this wonderful place soon 🙂

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This was in Holland, the tulip garden…I love love this place. It was heavenly- didn’t know a place like this existed on earth 🙂 if you go to Holland, check this place out!

 

Quote of the day:

True confidence is when you don’t compare yourself with anyone, you just arrive! #Queen things

 

Women of our generation!

The world we live in today is funny, emotional, corrupt, heartless, demanding, damaging, bloodsucking…etc The list is endless; and we have to fight for what we believe in otherwise we’ll get killed. We have to really stand up and protect ourselves and fight for dear life. Especially if you’re not an ass kisser like me. It doesn’t get easier. Today, we have two worlds and two generations fighting for what they believe in and never agreeing on one thing and we’re stuck in the middle. Because though we are one, we come from different times and generations. And one thinks their way is better than the other.

Today we have a lot of people leaving their families behind and starting their journey on their own to see where life might take them, but this comes with a big sacrifice. There’s a lot of people like me who left their families back home and moved to a different continent with a different culture and tradition trying to follow their bliss and have a better life. My journey has been nothing but challenging and I’m grateful for the hardships I went through cos’ it really made me appreciate how far I’ve come, how I see life  and where I’m headed. All the people I met and the troubles I’ve overcome made me wiser, kinder, better and stronger. Amen to that!

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When people move in groups, I stayed in my lane,  I didn’t mind being a loner because I knew where I was headed. It never did bother me. I did my own shit, dressed like I wanted, never really followed a crowd. I was always in a different space and place. I stayed true to myself, been hurt too many times and vowed to never hurt anyone I encounter on my journey. I moved on purpose. Everything I did, I made sure I did out of love and care.. Of course, I made mistakes but they only made me sharper and focused. I always found ways to feed my soul, did what I had to do to survive, I was there for the people who needed me, not because I had to, but because I wanted to. Just for love. Nothing else. But in the process of it all I lost myself. I was a servant and I still am. Because I believe that’s why I’m here. To serve humanity. But I completely lost myself because I thought I didn’t matter and since I was always the strong one, I ignored myself, because I thought I could do it all. Which is absolutely a massive mistake. But on the good side, I thought myself to be humble, kept my feet on the ground and stayed grounded. So many times I fell and got back up again. As the new generation and time got me thinking; I always tell myself, I got to do better, I have to be better than I was yesterday, I need to grow and move elegantly through life.

 

Meanwhile;

my grandmother and my mother’s generation is different to mine. They lived in a time where arranged marriage is acceptable and the highest achievement in life is to get married and have kids.  And all they could think of is for me get married and have kids. It feels like all my achievements in life, my ambitions and dreams, the way I am, how far I’ve come, my struggles and all that I am is never enough and is so not appreciated. I find myself growing apart from my family because I know I’m a disappointment to them. Regardless of how hard I tried to make them see my point of view, I will never succeed and they will never understand. And I will never understand their way of life either. Two generations who come from one land fighting for what they believe in but no one is winning.

We live in different times and ages. If a woman refuses to live the life that’s planned for her, she gets disowned by her parents because she said no to live the life they want for her. Their best line is” we know what’s best for you and we want you to be happy”. Wait, hold up! Did I say I’m sad? And you may have known me when I was little but 15 years later, I’m a different person. They need to understand their version of what’s best for us in their eyes might not actually be the best thing for us. They need to allow people to move on at their own pace, let them live life the way they want to and just let them be. And if we don’t obey we get disowned? What ignorance. It really breaks my heart to see that women of our time and age are not appreciated for who they are without a husband and kids. Life is more than that. Open your eyes.

 

Maybe this should sum up what women of our age are like:

we are the women of our time. We struggle, we fight, we overcome. We might need to work twice as hard to get where we want to get to, but even then we still never give up. We shouldn’t! We simply can’t! We’re stronger that we’ll ever be. We are the women of our time and generation! And we’ll always rise!

DEAL WITH IT!

That Homemade mouthwash for healthy gums!

Homemade mouthwash!

So, about 3 weeks ago, my tooth started aching badly and it was weird as my general mouth health is on point. Especially after I paid my dentist a visit at the beginning of the year and after she told me everything was in a good shape. It could only be related to the accident I had about 5 years ago when my jaw broke and it literally split in half and two of my teeth nearly fell out- it was gruesome- I thought I was going to be deformed for life. Thank God, I didn’t. *all smiles*

 

As usual I kept rinsing my mouth with warm water & Himalayan salt after I brush my teeth and hoped for the best, but the pain didn’t go away and suddenly I had the urge to make my own mouth wash. I stopped using mouth wash for a while now as it started eating up my gums, so I’ve had to rely on the Himalayan salt rinse for a while. The new mouthwash is amazing and after a day the pain was gone and now I’m in love with my mouthwash. It gives you a pleasant burning sensation just like the real mouthwash does, but only better and spicier. I’ve also noticed my teeth getting whiter and cleaner and my gums healthier. I haven’t had a single pain since I started using my miracle mouth wash. #happydays

 

You’ll need:

1 teaspoon of fine salt ( preferably Himalayan salt)

1 teaspoons of black pepper powder

1 teaspoons of cinnamon powder

Here’s what I made….

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It really depends on how spicy you want it, so it’s up to you if want to increase the amounts. Try it and find your own perfect mix. The spicier the better! I sometimes put more black pepper when I want it stronger. You can keep adding warm water to your mix and also add more black pepper and cinnamon if you like it strong. The stronger the better!!

 

Directions:

 

Mix all the ingredients together with warm water and rinse your mouth after you brush your teeth. You can also use it anytime you want- even in the middle of the day. There are no rules here.

 

Benefits

 

The antibacterial property of black pepper helps to fight against infections and as a result  it reduces pain and inflammation in your gums.

Cinnamon is effective against gum infection mainly because of its antifungal and antimicrobial properties. It’s been used for years to heal gum infections, which I think is why there’s a cinnamon gum- my childhood favourite chewing gum. The warm water along with the salt helps to pull “fluid” out of the gum tissue, therefore reducing swelling, alleviating pain, and killing harmful bacteria.

 

Quote of the day:

“Innovation basically involves making obsolete that which you did before- Jay Abraham

 

 

 

Expectation!

A sensitive topic that gets people into arguments, hate, resentment and disappointment and the cliché saying of all time “expect nothing to avoid being disappointed”!  ohh really? I’d say expect away and get disappointed anyway. It’s part of life and part of who we are. It’s not something you simply can switch of.

Bruce Lee has once said “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectation and you’re not in this world to live up to mine” and this is exactly how I want to live my life. And I’m safe to say I’m doing well on this. Giving, just because I feel like it and not expecting anything in return. It’s not easy but, it’s the journey that I’m on. I’m working to better myself each and everyday and I’ve also read few books on self-development; and I will keep reading them. But the truth is, we’re humans and whether we do things expecting something in return or we don’t, we’re bound to feel disappointed when the love or the favour doesn’t get returned. Don’t blame me- blame your heart and the way we’re made. And if they say why why?- tell them that is human nature- just like MJ said!

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Though, I’m trying to live my life according to Mr Lee’s quote above, it’s been challenging for me when it comes to letting people be. I don’t know if it’s a problem but I always see the good in people and it takes me a looooong time before I can say enough is enough and move on. I choose to see the good in people and always expect them to do better and be better. But I always get disappointed when they don’t live up to the expectation and the better image I have for them. See! I’m still expecting but I honestly don’t want to. Because, I figured everyone should be free and we cannot expect anyone to see life the way we do and expect them to think like we do. I’ve learned that we cannot expect them to be who we want them to be. Just as much as we don’t want them expecting us who to be.

We’re always going to end up resenting the people who make us do the things we hate doing and tell us to live our lives their way. And they’re always going to resent us for not fulfilling their wish. So if this is the case, why can’t we live FREELY ever after?!

The gorgeous Lisa Nicholas said, “ if you expect me to be the next Oprah, I will disappoint you massively, so let me just be Lisa Nicholas”

In a world full of expectations, just be!

In a world full of expectations, just be. You’re going to disappoint friends, parents, teachers…etc and you will never be perfect, and they’re also going to disappoint you. The sooner you get this the better. It’s about time we find peace with it but remember as long as you don’t disappoint you, honey! You’re good.

If you’re kind, be kind- don’t change because that one person is not being kind to you. If you’re crazy, be crazy! Don’t change because they want someone who’s boring. You are and should be loved the way you are.

I hope in the process of it all, you do not let anyone else’s expectations direct the course of your life.

Peace and Harmony

Bersi x

 

Rice water toner for shrinking pores, moisturising and cleansing skin!

No rose water? No problem! We can now use rice water as a face toner/cleanser!

That’s right you heard me right! Rice water is a great substitute for your regular toner and helps in reducing the size of the pores on your skin. It made my skin so clean and super smooth, my skin glows after I use it; and it definitely helped my pores shrink too. I love eating rice and I guess my skin loves it too. Happy days 🙂

There are 3 different methods to make it:   boiling, fermenting and no-boil quick method. I use the no boil quick method and I sometimes use the boiling method as well when I want to add in extra flavours or things- in this case orange peel.

You’ll need:

A cup of any rice and 2 cups of water. I use brown rice and the beauty of it is that you get to choose the type of rice you want to use. *wink* *Wink*

Instructions:

No boil quick method: First rinse the rice with about a cup of water to remove any dirt or impurities. But don’t over clean it- just rinsing it once is enough. If you wash it out properly, you’re going to lose all the goodness we’re after. STOP IT! Once you rinse it, place the rice in a bowl and cover with a cup of water. Let the rice soak for about 45 minutes. Swirl it around every 5 minutes until the water turns cloudy. Done!

The boiling method: You can also boil the rice to extract rice water. All you need to do is boil the rice using more water than you would normally do. Once it starts boiling take out the excess water, let it cool and use. This rice water will be very concentrated, so make sure to dilute it with plain water until it is just slightly cloudy.

Fermenting method: this is where you get to leave the rice soaking overnight. I tried fermenting it and boy is it a long process or what. FORGET IT!

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Mine has that yellow-ish look as I put orange peel in it. I boiled the orange peel with the rice for 5 minutes and this is what gives it that orange color.

How to use it:

Dip in a cotton pad into the rice water and gently massage your skin with it for a minute. Use this every day- morning and evening after you wash your face. You can also use it to cleanse your skin after you use a mask. Don’t worry if you skip a day. I do it too.

Storage: you can store it in a fridge for up to a week and make sure you shake it well before using it. I keep mine for 7 days maximum. Please bin it after day 7, it starts to smell funky and I don’t trust it.

Benefits:

Rice water also has moisturising, antioxidant, and healing properties that help to improve circulation, prevents or fade age related spots, and ease inflammation to give you healthy, better moisturised and clear skin. As long as it’s left on the skin, rice water is even believed to offer mild protection from the sun.

Orange peel:

The abundant vitamin C and anti-oxidants in orange peels prevent your skin from getting too oily or dry. When applied to skin, they also work as a toner, removing dead cells and dirt and tightening pores.

Warning!

Although it’s generally okay to eat the skins of fruits, I advise only doing so with organically farmed fruit. Why? Most farms spray insecticides to keep pests away. These insecticides remain on the fruit skin and may even penetrate deep into the flesh of the fruit. When consumed, the effects can be ugly, especially for children. Organic fruits have a lower risk, though you should still make sure to thoroughly wash them before consuming.

After you’re done with the rice, you can still make a good dish out of it. Don’t throw it away.

Quote of the day!

Abundance is not the absence of scarcity; it is the presence of abundant mentality.”
Debasish Mridha

Back problems and Yoga!

Well, hello dear folks

Recently I have been experiencing a back pain and I’ve noticed this only happens when I go on holidays. The reasons could be endless but I suspect it could be because I stop stretching and exercising at all, apart from walking endlessly trying to discover as much as I can. I hear you say walking should be enough for exercising but it’s not good enough as you only move the same muscles and forget about the rest. Common sense!!! I love site seeing too. Good! I hear you say, but it could also be a problem if you don’t rest up properly and don’t do your stretching. My love for walking and site seeing didn’t marry up properly without stretching. Usually I do yoga in the mornings before going to work and if I start feeling back pain I stretch like there is no tomorrow, but carefully as I don’t want to pull any muscles out of their resting place. *sigh*

Yoga is one of the best things that I have ever discovered. It’s well underrated and underestimated. I discovered that the perception of it is very wrong. Though it comes from the Buddha, it doesn’t necessarily mean you worship Buddhism if you practice yoga; and this is what most people think. Another perception is that yoga is just sitting down pointing your fingers and humming. WRONG! I thought the same, before I actually discovered the real deal. Not only it’s good for stretching, but it also helps with your core strength and with toning up. It thought me how to breathe, how to balance, listen to my body and relax.

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I went to see a doctor as the pain was excruciatingly painful; and guess what she told me to do? Stretching! That’s right. You guessed it or not.

The reason why I wanted to share this is ‘cos I wanted everyone to get used to stretching and exercising even if it’s a little bit. Don’t ignore your body! If exercising is a bit boring for you and you’re not cut out for it- then dancing is always an option as you move every muscle of your body and is the best exercise one can get. If dancing is out of question, then you either need to think about it or find something else you can do that can move your muscles. You don’t have to spend hours doing it- 30min a day is enough. If dancing isn’t good either, well then- you need help!

Having said that though, we also need to watch what we eat and be careful about our diet. I have realised HEALTH IS THE BIGGEST WEALTH! I think this was a wake-up call for me. Don’t underestimate it. Spend a little cash on your wellbeing. Go crazy! don’t be shy! Go to sauna or have a SPA day if you can. Instead of spending it on alcohol or a big night out- spend it on your health. See it as a long term investment. You will see you’ll feel better and refreshed after and money well spent too. The bottom line is you need to treat your body with respect- if not then it won’t respek ( with Ali G’s voice) you back.

Quote of the day

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path– Buddha

Peace and Love! till next time 😉

When in Vienna!

This is one of my favourite images. It was taken when my good friend and I went to visit Vienna.

The city is beautiful! I call it small Rome; only because of the old and rusty buildings which I love. But of course there’s nothing like Rome.

You might have gathered by now I love the colour green. It might be because it’s closer to nature and if you ask me there’s nothing like nature.

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In order not to disappoint a few, we refrain from inspiring many. -Bersi.Tk

It’s not about…

It is not about how good it started but how good the end will be

And enjoying the journey while you be

It is not about who you used to be, but who you become to be

It is not about what you had, but more like what you have

Neither its about where you been, but where you heading…

 -Bersi. Tk