That head wrap look!

I just can’t get enough of the head wraps. There’s something about them that oozes elegance- to me, they just feel home 🙂  don’t you think so? You can buy them from any African or Indian shops. It’s just the little things in life…

Express yourself #Freedom!

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This was taken in Ireland. The Shirt is from H & M; and the head wrap is from an Indian scarves shop.

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The vest and the blazer are also from H &M; and the boots are from Aldo; one of my favourite shoe shops in London. The scarf is from a local market. Ahh you gotta love markets! I personally think the the scarf makes this outfit complete. #Happy days

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This was taken in Southern France, Ramatuelle, One of my favourite places of all times. You can also wear your head wrap/scarf when travelling. It goes perfectly well with jeans and a top.

 

 

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This was taken in Spain, Las Palmas; another favourite place of mine! Don’t you love the green 🙂 aoww and the hair too! will share some photos of this wonderful place soon 🙂

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This was in Holland, the tulip garden…I love love this place. It was heavenly- didn’t know a place like this existed on earth 🙂 if you go to Holland, check this place out!

 

Quote of the day:

True confidence is when you don’t compare yourself with anyone, you just arrive! #Queen things

 

Freedom!

Freedom has a high price they say

As high as that of slavery

But then, do we ask what is freedom really?

Free from our commitments or responsibilities

Free from  the burdens or just having endless choices

Free from the laws of nature or the tradition that existed for centuries

Free to make our own rules, without boundaries

Free from feeling guilty of our blessings

Free to live our lives without judgments

Free to love life and live it fully

Free to follow our hearts and live life shamelessly

Free is what we are, naturally!

Women of our generation!

The world we live in today is funny, emotional, corrupt, heartless, demanding, damaging, bloodsucking…etc The list is endless; and we have to fight for what we believe in otherwise we’ll get killed. We have to really stand up and protect ourselves and fight for dear life. Especially if you’re not an ass kisser like me. It doesn’t get easier. Today, we have two worlds and two generations fighting for what they believe in and never agreeing on one thing and we’re stuck in the middle. Because though we are one, we come from different times and generations. And one thinks their way is better than the other.

Today we have a lot of people leaving their families behind and starting their journey on their own to see where life might take them, but this comes with a big sacrifice. There’s a lot of people like me who left their families back home and moved to a different continent with a different culture and tradition trying to follow their bliss and have a better life. My journey has been nothing but challenging and I’m grateful for the hardships I went through cos’ it really made me appreciate how far I’ve come, how I see life  and where I’m headed. All the people I met and the troubles I’ve overcome made me wiser, kinder, better and stronger. Amen to that!

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When people move in groups, I stayed in my lane,  I didn’t mind being a loner because I knew where I was headed. It never did bother me. I did my own shit, dressed like I wanted, never really followed a crowd. I was always in a different space and place. I stayed true to myself, been hurt too many times and vowed to never hurt anyone I encounter on my journey. I moved on purpose. Everything I did, I made sure I did out of love and care.. Of course, I made mistakes but they only made me sharper and focused. I always found ways to feed my soul, did what I had to do to survive, I was there for the people who needed me, not because I had to, but because I wanted to. Just for love. Nothing else. But in the process of it all I lost myself. I was a servant and I still am. Because I believe that’s why I’m here. To serve humanity. But I completely lost myself because I thought I didn’t matter and since I was always the strong one, I ignored myself, because I thought I could do it all. Which is absolutely a massive mistake. But on the good side, I thought myself to be humble, kept my feet on the ground and stayed grounded. So many times I fell and got back up again. As the new generation and time got me thinking; I always tell myself, I got to do better, I have to be better than I was yesterday, I need to grow and move elegantly through life.

 

Meanwhile;

my grandmother and my mother’s generation is different to mine. They lived in a time where arranged marriage is acceptable and the highest achievement in life is to get married and have kids.  And all they could think of is for me get married and have kids. It feels like all my achievements in life, my ambitions and dreams, the way I am, how far I’ve come, my struggles and all that I am is never enough and is so not appreciated. I find myself growing apart from my family because I know I’m a disappointment to them. Regardless of how hard I tried to make them see my point of view, I will never succeed and they will never understand. And I will never understand their way of life either. Two generations who come from one land fighting for what they believe in but no one is winning.

We live in different times and ages. If a woman refuses to live the life that’s planned for her, she gets disowned by her parents because she said no to live the life they want for her. Their best line is” we know what’s best for you and we want you to be happy”. Wait, hold up! Did I say I’m sad? And you may have known me when I was little but 15 years later, I’m a different person. They need to understand their version of what’s best for us in their eyes might not actually be the best thing for us. They need to allow people to move on at their own pace, let them live life the way they want to and just let them be. And if we don’t obey we get disowned? What ignorance. It really breaks my heart to see that women of our time and age are not appreciated for who they are without a husband and kids. Life is more than that. Open your eyes.

 

Maybe this should sum up what women of our age are like:

we are the women of our time. We struggle, we fight, we overcome. We might need to work twice as hard to get where we want to get to, but even then we still never give up. We shouldn’t! We simply can’t! We’re stronger that we’ll ever be. We are the women of our time and generation! And we’ll always rise!

DEAL WITH IT!

Expectation!

A sensitive topic that gets people into arguments, hate, resentment and disappointment and the cliché saying of all time “expect nothing to avoid being disappointed”!  ohh really? I’d say expect away and get disappointed anyway. It’s part of life and part of who we are. It’s not something you simply can switch of.

Bruce Lee has once said “I’m not in this world to live up to your expectation and you’re not in this world to live up to mine” and this is exactly how I want to live my life. And I’m safe to say I’m doing well on this. Giving, just because I feel like it and not expecting anything in return. It’s not easy but, it’s the journey that I’m on. I’m working to better myself each and everyday and I’ve also read few books on self-development; and I will keep reading them. But the truth is, we’re humans and whether we do things expecting something in return or we don’t, we’re bound to feel disappointed when the love or the favour doesn’t get returned. Don’t blame me- blame your heart and the way we’re made. And if they say why why?- tell them that is human nature- just like MJ said!

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Though, I’m trying to live my life according to Mr Lee’s quote above, it’s been challenging for me when it comes to letting people be. I don’t know if it’s a problem but I always see the good in people and it takes me a looooong time before I can say enough is enough and move on. I choose to see the good in people and always expect them to do better and be better. But I always get disappointed when they don’t live up to the expectation and the better image I have for them. See! I’m still expecting but I honestly don’t want to. Because, I figured everyone should be free and we cannot expect anyone to see life the way we do and expect them to think like we do. I’ve learned that we cannot expect them to be who we want them to be. Just as much as we don’t want them expecting us who to be.

We’re always going to end up resenting the people who make us do the things we hate doing and tell us to live our lives their way. And they’re always going to resent us for not fulfilling their wish. So if this is the case, why can’t we live FREELY ever after?!

The gorgeous Lisa Nicholas said, “ if you expect me to be the next Oprah, I will disappoint you massively, so let me just be Lisa Nicholas”

In a world full of expectations, just be!

In a world full of expectations, just be. You’re going to disappoint friends, parents, teachers…etc and you will never be perfect, and they’re also going to disappoint you. The sooner you get this the better. It’s about time we find peace with it but remember as long as you don’t disappoint you, honey! You’re good.

If you’re kind, be kind- don’t change because that one person is not being kind to you. If you’re crazy, be crazy! Don’t change because they want someone who’s boring. You are and should be loved the way you are.

I hope in the process of it all, you do not let anyone else’s expectations direct the course of your life.

Peace and Harmony

Bersi x

 

That traditional wear!

Hello folks, I know I have been away, but I got good news for you. I am back and back for good- *wink wink*

Here’s one of my favourite traditional wears and you know green is my colour, something about it that makes me feel closer to nature.

May the new year be our year- the year we come closer, the year of love and joy, the year of unlimited power and hope, the year our dreams come true, the year full of laughter, health and success.

 

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“Don’t walk in front of me… I may not follow
Don’t walk behind me… I may not lead
Walk beside me… just be my friend”
Albert Camus

When in Holland- Lisse!

Hey folks, guess who’s back? that’s right- I’m back. Couldn’t wait to share what I’m about to share with you. I actually went to see a friend I haven’t seen in 10 years. It was more like a reunion and it was a complete bliss. Happy days, happy times and wonderful memories.

Place: Keukenhof- the Tulips garden and what a better way to spend an afternoon 🙂

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If you ever go to Holland, please stop by this wonderful place. Heaven on Earth. There’s more to Holland than Amsterdam you know. 🙂 and while I was at it I thought I’d share some fashion inspiration.

Quote:

“You express your own divinity by being alive and by loving yourself and others.”
Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

 

A beautiful mess! 

Perfection they see her as

But she knows she is far from it in her eyes

She has it all under control and many are proud of what she has become

And some others still want more, thinking they know what’s best for her soul

She lays there not worrying much, knowing her soul has a perfect match….

Author – BersiTk

For more poems visit: https://bersiiblog.wordpress.com/

 

 

That Bohemian look!

Hey folks, here is another favourite image of mine! apologies for the delay, but better late than never. I wouldn’t mind dressing like this everyday. I feel comfortable and I certainly feel myself. We should not and I repeat SHOULD NOT feel like we have to do what others are doing and feel how others are feeling. We have the right to feel the way we want to feel and dress the way we want to dress. Express yourself! be yourself! and if you’re scared of others’ negative comments- learn to ignore the message; be the master of it.  As usual, stay tuned for more!

In this picture I’m not wearing any foundation at all. The only thing I’m wearing is Mascara, eye liner and a bit of lipgloss. It’s all natural and it shows what I’ve been doing right. wink wink!

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All we want is….

All we want is to feel safe and be loved
To open our hearts and let people see
To fall asleep deeply without a single worry
All we want is to be heard and be seen
To be understood even when it’s hard to explain
To be hugged and feel the connection
To let go and never fight on every occasion

To be free and have a sense of belonging
To feel and touch what we’ve been longing….

-Bersi TK

For more poems visit- bersiiblog.wordpress.com