What true belonging means to me.

Where do you belong?

Well darlings, this is a tough one. I have seen people struggle with it as much as I have struggled. We all want to feel we belong somewhere. Whether it is our families, our villages, our countries, our jobs, our friends, our communities…etc. But isn’t it true that belonging is fitting in? I questioned myself several times.  What happens if we don’t fit in anywhere anymore. I mean, we belong somewhere because we share something right. Whether it’s values, standards, traditions and cultures. I mean, there has to be something we have in common right. But if you start having different values, different ways of thinking, different everything than our community, would you still say, I belong with them? Would you still feel comfortable saying that’s my home? Would you still feel understood, valued and accepted?

I mean we can disagree on somethings but if the core values change, what then? This kept coming back to me.

I left home in my mid-teenage years and have had to start life over and over again. Have had to learn different languages, cultures and traditions; and I’m grateful for it. I brought my values I grew up with, with me but over the years they started changing. I mean we have to evolve in order to grow right? We can’t just be in one spot and expect to grow too. We got to keep learning and changing. But the reality of it is, we try to make our values fit with others and when they don’t work we back off and ask why it didn’t.

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we try to make anyone and everything familiar to our values home. You try to grab it and never let go of it. We be the servant because it gives us that sense of belonging. I am guilty of this because I did it over and over again. I try to replace that feeling of belonging with people who didn’t even care about me. Of course, I didn’t see it then. But I kept searching for it everywhere. But I had no luck.

I didn’t know I didn’t have to do things to feel and be accepted and I certainly didn’t have to prove anything to anyone so I can belong.

And I failed to understand that home is not where I left it. It is not with a bunch of people. I finally understood that Home is me. It always has been. Home is where I go. Home is my head and my heart. Home is me. Because I kept coming back to myself. I kept coming back to my heart. And I reached a conclusion that no matter where I go there is my home. You cannot escape yourself. You’ll always be carrying you around, so you better make that a comfortable home. Respect your home, clean your home, love your home. And you will see a much loved, happy, cared for and respected home will attract curiosity and will attract homes just like it.

…And when you find someone who’s just what you were looking for; well, they can be your second home 🙂

Hope these words stay with you 🙂

With love- Bersi x

 

 

 

 

 

The way out!

 

It was written before I wrote
It was broken before I broke it
The way out- it was made before I made it
God almighty
Always there- watching me
Paving the way for me
Every turn, every corner
Curving it beautifully
Sending me,  angels who guard me

scarf me
I was always protected
Deep down I knew- never doubted it
All I had to do was pay attention- no hesitation
Believe! Listen carefully
It’s a gut feeling
What I was good at ignoring
What do you know about it though? it is a spiritual thing. Spiritual healing!!

Yours. Bersi, with love xoxo

 

 

I’m everything and nothing at all!

I am everything and nothing at all

Sometimes I want to be quiet and sometimes celebrate
I love those who have energy and jump around and I am that,
But at times I just want to meditate and leave it at that.
Sometimes I want to hold hands and take it slow,
But other times I want to jump in the ocean and play with the storm
You know playing with words is what I adore, but then I also like a movie & a popcorn

Sometimes I hold on tight to what I have, but other times I don’t care if all is lost
I love it when you tell me you love me, but other times it’s enough when you hold me
And we all love it when people sympathise with us but tough love we also appreciate.
Sometimes we want to be healthy but then we also celebrate being lazy
And don’t we all love honesty but the kind less brutal & easy

we love to share but we don’t like it when they’re too nosy

I admire flexibility, and I don’t mind changing but without losing my identity

you see- It’s not because I have endless personalities
But because, darling!  I am everything
And without it, I’m also nothing!!!

look around, pay attention and see if you’re experiencing something ….anything?

Love always, yours Bee x0x0

When in Vienna!

This is one of my favourite images. It was taken when my good friend and I went to visit Vienna.

The city is beautiful! I call it small Rome; only because of the old and rusty buildings which I love. But of course there’s nothing like Rome.

You might have gathered by now I love the colour green. It might be because it’s closer to nature and if you ask me there’s nothing like nature.

when in vienna pic

In order not to disappoint a few, we refrain from inspiring many. -Bersi.Tk

It’s not about…

It is not about how good it started but how good the end will be

And enjoying the journey while you be

It is not about who you used to be, but who you become to be

It is not about what you had, but more like what you have

Neither its about where you been, but where you heading…

 -Bersi. Tk

 

That Bohemian look!

Hey folks, here is another favourite image of mine! apologies for the delay, but better late than never. I wouldn’t mind dressing like this everyday. I feel comfortable and I certainly feel myself. We should not and I repeat SHOULD NOT feel like we have to do what others are doing and feel how others are feeling. We have the right to feel the way we want to feel and dress the way we want to dress. Express yourself! be yourself! and if you’re scared of others’ negative comments- learn to ignore the message; be the master of it.  As usual, stay tuned for more!

In this picture I’m not wearing any foundation at all. The only thing I’m wearing is Mascara, eye liner and a bit of lipgloss. It’s all natural and it shows what I’ve been doing right. wink wink!

bohemian look

All we want is….

All we want is to feel safe and be loved
To open our hearts and let people see
To fall asleep deeply without a single worry
All we want is to be heard and be seen
To be understood even when it’s hard to explain
To be hugged and feel the connection
To let go and never fight on every occasion

To be free and have a sense of belonging
To feel and touch what we’ve been longing….

-Bersi TK

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